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IN A PERFECT WORLD

MAN IN RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF

An elaborate but useful resource for men seeking spiritual growth.

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In this debut self-help guide, Neal aims to teach men to relearn masculinity by tapping into their deepest selves.

The author, a software developer and former Lutheran lay minister who holds a doctorate in education from Fielding Graduate University, has designed a trilogy of books, of which this is the first, as “a strategic roadmap for men who want to become better men.” She begins by citing research and theory to explain how men have arrived in a precarious position of unchecked power within a quickly changing world, noting that in a “command-and-control reality,” the “shadow aspects of masculinity have been elevated and normalized over centuries and have become socially conditioned as appropriate male behavior.” She then points out that “These preconceived notions no longer serve men, humanity, or the planet.” Neal encourages the men to undertake a strategy to examine this situation by deepening their knowledge of themselves and their relationships, using such practices as mindfulness meditation and intentionality. One of the book’s major strengths is that it’s guided by the idea that “abstractions of race and gender are historically and profoundly distorted…men have claimed they possess God-ordained supremacy over women, animals, and the planet for thousands of years.” While offering up personal anecdotes from her own journey, such as her experience in the Evangelical Lutheran Congregational Church of America, Neal shows how one can cultivate vulnerability and transformation through a process of “conscious evolution,” which she calls “the game that aims to awaken, inform, and recall to life.” The book insightfully supports its conception of healthy, sustainable masculinity; it doesn’t seek to demonize men but rather to lift them up by challenging them to become aware of their egos and how they interact with the world. It’s a fine self-help resource for men “to incorporate other ways of being.”

An elaborate but useful resource for men seeking spiritual growth.

Pub Date: March 31, 2022

ISBN: 978-1-66571-980-3

Page Count: 188

Publisher: Archway Publishing

Review Posted Online: May 31, 2022

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THINK YOU'LL BE HAPPY

MOVING THROUGH GRIEF WITH GRIT, GRACE, AND GRATITUDE

Some of Avant’s mantras are overstated, but her book is magnanimous, inspiring, and relentlessly optimistic.

Memories and life lessons inspired by the author’s mother, who was murdered in 2021.

“Neither my mother nor I knew that her last text to me would be the words ‘Think you’ll be happy,’ ” Avant writes, "but it is fitting that she left me with a mantra for resiliency.” The author, a filmmaker and former U.S. Ambassador to the Bahamas, begins her first book on the night she learned her mother, Jacqueline Avant, had been fatally shot during a home invasion. “One of my first thoughts,” she writes, “was, ‘Oh God, please don’t let me hate this man. Give me the strength not to hate him.’ ” Daughter of Clarence Avant, known as the “Black Godfather” due to his work as a pioneering music executive, the author describes growing up “in a house that had a revolving door of famous people,” from Ella Fitzgerald to Muhammad Ali. “I don’t take for granted anything I have achieved in my life as a Black American woman,” writes Avant. “And I recognize my unique upbringing…..I was taught to honor our past and pay forward our fruits.” The book, which is occasionally repetitive, includes tributes to her mother from figures like Oprah Winfrey and Bill Clinton, but the narrative core is the author’s direct, faith-based, unwaveringly positive messages to readers—e.g., “I don’t want to carry the sadness and anger I have toward the man who did this to my mother…so I’m worshiping God amid the worst storm imaginable”; "Success and feeling good are contagious. I’m all about positive contagious vibrations!” Avant frequently quotes Bible verses, and the bulk of the text reflects the spirit of her daily prayer “that everything is in divine order.” Imploring readers to practice proactive behavior, she writes, “We have to always find the blessing, to be the blessing.”

Some of Avant’s mantras are overstated, but her book is magnanimous, inspiring, and relentlessly optimistic.

Pub Date: Oct. 17, 2023

ISBN: 9780063304413

Page Count: 288

Publisher: HarperOne

Review Posted Online: Aug. 17, 2023

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2023

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THE MESSAGE

A revelatory meditation on shattering journeys.

Bearing witness to oppression.

Award-winning journalist and MacArthur Fellow Coates probes the narratives that shape our perception of the world through his reports on three journeys: to Dakar, Senegal, the last stop for Black Africans “before the genocide and rebirth of the Middle Passage”; to Chapin, South Carolina, where controversy erupted over a writing teacher’s use of Between the World and Me in class; and to Israel and Palestine, where he spent 10 days in a “Holy Land of barbed wire, settlers, and outrageous guns.” By addressing the essays to students in his writing workshop at Howard University in 2022, Coates makes a literary choice similar to the letter to his son that informed Between the World and Me; as in that book, the choice creates a sense of intimacy between writer and reader. Interweaving autobiography and reportage, Coates examines race, his identity as a Black American, and his role as a public intellectual. In Dakar, he is haunted by ghosts of his ancestors and “the shade of Niggerology,” a pseudoscientific narrative put forth to justify enslavement by portraying Blacks as inferior. In South Carolina, the 22-acre State House grounds, dotted with Confederate statues, continue to impart a narrative of white supremacy. His trip to the Middle East inspires the longest and most impassioned essay: “I don’t think I ever, in my life, felt the glare of racism burn stranger and more intense than in Israel,” he writes. In his complex analysis, he sees the trauma of the Holocaust playing a role in Israel’s tactics in the Middle East: “The wars against the Palestinians and their Arab allies were a kind of theater in which ‘weak Jews’ who went ‘like lambs to slaughter’ were supplanted by Israelis who would ‘fight back.’” Roiled by what he witnessed, Coates feels speechless, unable to adequately convey Palestinians’ agony; their reality “demands new messengers, tasked as we all are, with nothing less than saving the world.”

A revelatory meditation on shattering journeys.

Pub Date: Oct. 1, 2024

ISBN: 9780593230381

Page Count: 176

Publisher: One World/Random House

Review Posted Online: Aug. 2, 2024

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 2024

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