FIRST GEN

The White House deputy director of Hispanic media for the Obama administration shares her story.

For Campoverdi, a women’s health care advocate and policy adviser, breaking a multigenerational cycle of poverty, domestic abuse, and limited education was “a radical act of healing.” In this memoir, she aims to correct the “sugar-coated, stereotypical narrative about social mobility and the American Dream.” After years of therapy for trauma-induced anxiety, panic attacks, and suicidal thoughts, the author has learned to recognize symptoms and syndromes that she could not identify when she was growing up. Campoverdi maps out some of the emotional relationships in her family, especially the experiences of the women. “Three generations of women in my family had primarily been single mothers,” she writes. “Three generations of women in my family struggled to make ends meet….Three generations of women in my family had been in emotionally tumultuous relationships with chaotic men.” When she was younger, the author was drawn to rough, charismatic gang members, and she also bore significant emotional burdens for other family members, becoming “Parentified”—i.e., “enlisted into the role of family caretaker.” However, “acknowledging my own experience as a Parentified Child was never about pointing fingers or assigning blame,” she writes. “Parentification is rarely done with malicious intent, and in my case, I truly believe that everyone was doing the best they could with what they knew and had.” Campoverdi was a high achiever, and she earned degrees at USC and Harvard’s Kennedy School. Despite enormous debt, she was sure that her big-name education was “the single most powerful professional ‘validator’ I could earn.” Ultimately, the “breakaway guilt” of succeeding where her family did not humbled her, and she went on to great success in politics, health care activism, and documentary production. In this psychologically astute work, the author calls out her difficult childhood experiences in order to demonstrate how to overcome stigma and trauma.

An inspiring story and an invaluable resource for first-generation immigrant children striving for success in America.