THE CONNECTION PLAYBOOK

Chaleff presents a thoughtful guide on how to forge new connections and improve existing ones.

Human connection is fundamental to survival, so it’s vital to know how to build these meaningful and necessary bonds. In this book, the author presents readers with a “playbook” for how to navigate connections in their everyday lives. He uses personal anecdotes and concrete and familiar real-world examples to explain his ideas, resulting in a straightforward read. The book is organized around six distinct concepts, each contained in its own section: “The Essential Conditions for Connection,” “Connection Killers,” “Opening the Door to Connection,” “Creating Context for Deepening Connection,” “Advanced Skills for Deepening Connection,” and “Navigating Tricky Connections.” Although these sections build on one another as the book goes on, readers can easily skip around and read what piques their interest. At the end of each section, Chaleff features exercises that allow readers to apply what they’ve just learned to their own lives; those who complete these are likely to get the most out of this book. (They may also explore chapter-recap videos, accessible via QR codes.) Chaleff's clear love of formulas, coupled with his conversational storytelling tone, has the effect of inviting readers into his discussions, which never feel like lectures. As he puts it, the book’s core idea is that “If we can’t see how we create barriers between ourselves and others, we have no way of dealing with those barriers….Love, compassion, and connection…are our natural state when we remove the barriers that prevent us from living in that state.” In a world that’s slowly emerging from the Covid-19 pandemic, during which many people struggled with building and maintaining relationships, this book is a must-read.

A book that offers pertinent and practical connection-building advice in an easily digestible format.