DIRTBAG QUEEN

A doting son commemorates the life and legacy of his eccentric mother.

Playwright and performer Corren’s memory of his beloved mother, who died in late 2021 at 84, was immortalized by a pithy, comedic obituary that became a national social media sensation. His family memoir flamboyantly elaborates on her eventful life in Fayetteville, North Carolina, as a “plus-sized Jewish lady redneck” named Renay, mother to a kooky Southern brood. The author writes of being the youngest of six, exiled every summer throughout his childhood to his grandparents’ Miami Beach home to entertain them with his celebrity impersonations. Corren establishes himself early on as an uproarious raconteur, having coined pet names for his siblings, according to their personalities, and sharing endless anecdotes about their misadventures getting backyard haircuts, their work in tandem with their mother at the local bowling alley, the family’s time living in Japan, and their house evictions during sweltering Fayetteville summers. Corren retraces his mother’s reckless early years as a nut-loving, “ravenous and ravishing redheaded” Southern woman who, when faced with trouble, “shot first, asked questions later” and was, surprisingly, a voracious reader. Unfortunately, Renay’s divorce in 1975 became the event that unraveled her emotionally and financially. Despite their former devotion, Corren’s siblings (and the author himself, on his 18th birthday) left Fayetteville forever. Though his queerness emerged throughout his youth, Corren divulges that he always knew he was special, “like a hothouse plant that needed a little extra attention,” which his mother always lavished on him in her own unique and boisterous way. Though some will find Corren’s delivery of rapid-fire anecdotes dizzying, he manages to downshift toward the book’s conclusion, recounting a poignant trip back to Fayetteville, five months after his mother’s death and 34 years after he’d permanently left the area, to organize a family memorial for Renay at the bowling alley she always adored.

A matriarch’s idiosyncratic life captured and besainted through a succession of hilarious memories.