BUILD THE LIFE YOU WANT

An accessible road map to greater fulfillment, connection, and magnanimity.

During the 2020 pandemic, Brooks, a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and the Harvard Business School, began a column in the Atlantic, “How To Build a Life,” offering practical wisdom and tools for a purpose-driven, satisfying life. A fan of Brooks’ work, Winfrey writes, “This man was singing my song.” Over the course of this collaboration, Brooks presents “clear, science-based information about how your happiness works and then instructions on how to use this information in your life.” Winfrey contributes intermittent, brief notes about experiences and opinions—e.g., “It’s about happier—a relative, contextualized, fluid condition, not some perfect fixed ideal….Happier is not a state of being, but a state of doing—not a thing you wait around and hope for, but an achievable change you actively work toward.” After defining happiness (“a combination of enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose”), the authors focus on the benefits of and skills required for emotional self-management (“metacognition, emotional substitution, and adopting an outward focus”). Winfrey suggests writing down words to that effect and taping them to your refrigerator: “Your emotions are only signals. And you get to decide how you’ll respond to them.” Brooks delineates simple, actionable steps such as keeping a journal. “Spend more time enjoying things that amaze you,” he writes, emphasizing how to consciously cultivate gratitude, humor, hope, and compassion. An example of his advice includes, “Unfollow people you don’t know…whose posts you simply look at because they have what you want.” He posits that family, friendship, work, and faith “are the pillars on which a good life is based,” and he focuses the final four chapters on each of these. Brooks is masterful at synthesizing enormous quantities of research into a simple and supportive text.

A quick read, this hopeful book will benefit readers searching for enriched well-being.