Everyone learning to navigate sexual relationships should read this manual for total consent.
Written in a casual tone directed at teens and 20-somethings, this volume covers all aspects of consent, including sexual and emotional awareness, societal influences, the law, what consent looks like, and what to do in the event of a sexual assault. Bradshaw takes the discussion beyond “no means no” and even “yes means yes” into the real world. She gives concrete examples, tools, and exercises that young people can apply to their lived experiences. She acknowledges the complicated feelings that can arise and the difficulty of dealing with rejection. She also gives a simplified explanation of the science behind our fight-or-flight response and why we sometimes appear to consent when we really want to run away screaming. This text is addressed to all genders and sexualities, though it does not hesitate to acknowledge and break down gendered pressures and stereotypes. It is not only targeted at theoretical targets of assault; it clearly explains that if you can’t honor someone’s boundaries, you are not ready to have sex. Despite a few awkward sentences and corny acronyms, this is an invaluable resource for readers wishing to learn more about these critical subjects.
Everyone learning to navigate sexual relationships should read this manual for total consent. (additional resources, works cited) (Self-help. 13-adult)Pub Date: Oct. 1, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-68403-449-9
Page Count: 200
Publisher: Instant Help Books
Review Posted Online: Aug. 24, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2020
Small but mighty necessary reading.
A miniature manifesto for radical queer acceptance that weaves together the personal and political.
Eli, a cis gay white Jewish man, uses his own identities and experiences to frame and acknowledge his perspective. In the prologue, Eli compares the global Jewish community to the global queer community, noting, “We don’t always get it right, but the importance of showing up for other Jews has been carved into the DNA of what it means to be Jewish. It is my dream that queer people develop the same ideology—what I like to call a Global Queer Conscience.” He details his own isolating experiences as a queer adolescent in an Orthodox Jewish community and reflects on how he and so many others would have benefitted from a robust and supportive queer community. The rest of the book outlines 10 principles based on the belief that an expectation of mutual care and concern across various other dimensions of identity can be integrated into queer community values. Eli’s prose is clear, straightforward, and powerful. While he makes some choices that may be divisive—for example, using the initialism LGBTQIAA+ which includes “ally”—he always makes clear those are his personal choices and that the language is ever evolving.
Small but mighty necessary reading. (resources) (Nonfiction. 14-18)Pub Date: June 2, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-593-09368-9
Page Count: 64
Publisher: Penguin Workshop
Review Posted Online: March 28, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: April 15, 2020
A fierce, penetrating, and empowering call for change.
Artist and activist Vaid-Menon demonstrates how the normativity of the gender binary represses creativity and inflicts physical and emotional violence.
The author, whose parents emigrated from India, writes about how enforcement of the gender binary begins before birth and affects people in all stages of life, with people of color being especially vulnerable due to Western conceptions of gender as binary. Gender assignments create a narrative for how a person should behave, what they are allowed to like or wear, and how they express themself. Punishment of nonconformity leads to an inseparable link between gender and shame. Vaid-Menon challenges familiar arguments against gender nonconformity, breaking them down into four categories—dismissal, inconvenience, biology, and the slippery slope (fear of the consequences of acceptance). Headers in bold font create an accessible navigation experience from one analysis to the next. The prose maintains a conversational tone that feels as intimate and vulnerable as talking with a best friend. At the same time, the author's turns of phrase in moments of deep insight ring with precision and poetry. In one reflection, they write, “the most lethal part of the human body is not the fist; it is the eye. What people see and how people see it has everything to do with power.” While this short essay speaks honestly of pain and injustice, it concludes with encouragement and an invitation into a future that celebrates transformation.
A fierce, penetrating, and empowering call for change. (writing prompt) (Nonfiction. 14-adult)Pub Date: June 2, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-593-09465-5
Page Count: 64
Publisher: Penguin Workshop
Review Posted Online: March 14, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: April 1, 2020
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