SAME AS IT EVER WAS

As Julia approaches 60, she clarifies her identity as mother, wife, and daughter in this novel of domestic ambivalence.

As well as a meditation on good and bad mothering, this is a novel about “marriage in the aftermath of an affair.” Part-time librarian Julia Ames has settled into a long marriage with ever-patient, ever-loving (a little too perfect to believe) husband Mark in the Chicago suburbs. Now, as Julia and Mark face major changes—their 24-year-old son’s impending marriage and fatherhood, their daughter’s high school graduation and departure for college—a brief encounter with a once close friend prompts Julia to reexamine her personal history. In obsessive, sometimes repetitive detail, she rehashes instances of fear, resentment, and anxiety and her overpowering sense of not fitting in. She also relives the choices she made that almost derailed her life. Julia is not exactly a sympathetic or trustworthy character. Insecure and uncomfortable with most people, including her children—to whom she’s offered deep but ambivalent love—she has difficulty expressing affection and tends to shut down difficult conversations with snarky wit. But if she is judgmental, she is most critical of herself and clearly wounded; her single mother had neither time nor inclination to parent her properly, and Julia’s hints about a major adolescent trauma build to an eventual anticlimactic reveal. While the “preposterous political landscape” remains in the background, class and entitlement issues are front and center. In addition to her mother’s emotional neglect, financial insecurity marred Julia’s childhood, rendering her a cynical but keen-eyed observer of the wealthy, educated world in which she has landed, a world that allows Julia’s crises, however initially unnerving, to end in soft landings.

Lombardo’s density of sociological and psychological details is immersive at best but can sometimes be enervating.