An insightful, accessible guide to feeling good by doing good.
Ideas and exercises for finding stability and meaning in a divisive, destabilizing world.
In the wild year that was 2020, Bryant looked around and realized that Americans were deeply divided. Curious about what happened and how we might realign ourselves, the author started doing the research that would become this book. Bryant trained as a sociologist, but she also has a wealth of experience creating resources used in elementary and secondary social and emotional learning curricula around the world. Part 1 covers working on oneself: fostering self-respect, maintaining intellectual flexibility, learning from negative emotions, and developing other skills that promote lasting happiness. In Part 2, we’re invited to consider that how we treat others affects our own well-being. She describes how people have evolved to cooperate—to give up some personal freedoms in exchange for the benefits of living in a society—and looks at the ways we can enhance our lives by seeking community. Bryant builds upon the first two sections in Part 3, where she explores belief systems spanning the globe and thousands of years of history looking for core moral principles. Each chapter ends with journal prompts—questions like “Have you ever changed a behavior or created a new habit? How did you go about it?” Along the way, Bryant draws from a wide array of resources, from the work of contemporary happiness researchers and evolutionary biologists to Thomas Paine and Confucius. An attempt to address “identity politics,” however, offers a simplistic critique: “Real injustices have happened, and people are reasonable to want that to be acknowledged and corrected. But if the goal is truly to reach our society’s ideals for equality and fairness, we need a different approach that doesn’t wrap people’s identities in a shared sense of suffering.” In its entirety, this is a comprehensive program for creating a healthy culture by creating a healthy self, but Bryant offers an excellent annotated index in case readers need a quick hit of wisdom or a refresher course on a particular topic. And anyone who wants to go deeper can find her sources in the “Notes” section at the end of the book.
An insightful, accessible guide to feeling good by doing good.Pub Date: Oct. 4, 2022
ISBN: 9780984905669
Page Count: 337
Publisher: LoveWell Press
Review Posted Online: Nov. 18, 2022
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2023
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
An ebullient nature lover’s paean to birds.
A charming bird journey with the bestselling author.
In his introduction to Tan’s “nature journal,” David Allen Sibley, the acclaimed ornithologist, nails the spirit of this book: a “collection of delightfully quirky, thoughtful, and personal observations of birds in sketches and words.” For years, Tan has looked out on her California backyard “paradise”—oaks, periwinkle vines, birch, Japanese maple, fuchsia shrubs—observing more than 60 species of birds, and she fashions her findings into delightful and approachable journal excerpts, accompanied by her gorgeous color sketches. As the entries—“a record of my life”—move along, the author becomes more adept at identifying and capturing them with words and pencils. Her first entry is September 16, 2017: Shortly after putting up hummingbird feeders, one of the tiny, delicate creatures landed on her hand and fed. “We have a relationship,” she writes. “I am in love.” By August 2018, her backyard “has become a menagerie of fledglings…all learning to fly.” Day by day, she has continued to learn more about the birds, their activities, and how she should relate to them; she also admits mistakes when they occur. In December 2018, she was excited to observe a Townsend’s Warbler—“Omigod! It’s looking at me. Displeased expression.” Battling pesky squirrels, Tan deployed Hot Pepper Suet to keep them away, and she deterred crows by hanging a fake one upside down. The author also declared war on outdoor cats when she learned they kill more than 1 billion birds per year. In May 2019, she notes that she spends $250 per month on beetle larvae. In June 2019, she confesses “spending more hours a day staring at birds than writing. How can I not?” Her last entry, on December 15, 2022, celebrates when an eating bird pauses, “looks and acknowledges I am there.”
An ebullient nature lover’s paean to birds.Pub Date: April 23, 2024
ISBN: 9780593536131
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Knopf
Review Posted Online: Jan. 19, 2024
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 15, 2024
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SEEN & HEARD
A pleasingly unformulaic book of hard-won advice that never rings false.
The comic and television personality turns serious—semi-serious, anyway—in a combination memoir and self-help book.
Handler opens these generally short essays with a memory of childhood that closes with the exhortation to keep the child within us alive into adulthood: “Hold on to that child tightly, as if she were your own, because she is.” The memory soon veers into the comically absurd, with an account of a cocaine-fueled cross-country trip with a random companion who looked like another TV personality: “I don’t know if Dog the Bounty Hunter does copious amounts of cocaine, but he sure looks like he does.” Drugs and juice are seldom far from the proceedings, but therapy is close by, too, and clearly the latter has been of tremendous use, if “exhausting in the sense that every new development or idea led to a period of intense self-awareness followed by waves of acute self-consciousness coupled with endless self-recrimination.” As the anecdotes progress, that intense self-awareness becomes less fraught. Some of her life lessons are drawn from her experiences wrestling with the yips and setbacks of performing before audiences; some turn into knowing one-liners (“I knew if three men in a row told me not to do something, it was imperative that I do the opposite”). Most, even if tongue-in-cheek or rueful, are delivered with a disarming friendliness laced with her trademark archness: Her account of a dinner opposite Woody Allen and daughter/wife Soon-Yi is worth the price of admission alone. In the main, Handler is a cheerleader for everyone worthy of cheers, and especially women. As she writes, encouragingly, “You have misbehaved, and then corrected, and then misbehaved again, and then corrected some more”—and have grown and flourished.
A pleasingly unformulaic book of hard-won advice that never rings false.Pub Date: Feb. 25, 2025
ISBN: 9780593596579
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Dial Press
Review Posted Online: March 4, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: April 1, 2025
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