DOING THE RIGHT THING

Miller offers a guide for millennials becoming caregivers for the elderly.

The author draws on her experience as a certified senior advisor, certified aging in place specialist, and real estate associate broker in these pages to help millennial readers navigate the many options and issues that come with becoming a caregiver for an elder. The author discusses the pros and cons of a wide range of living options, including the more commonly known active adult and continuing care communities, as well as lesser-known options like Accessory Dwelling Units and RV living, among others. Miller concisely explains reverse mortgages and strategies for selling a home. She also provides helpful lists regarding criteria for aging in place, evaluating assisted living communities and potential trust and estate attorneys, and items needed for probate. Tips for effective decluttering are supplemented with easy-to-follow flow charts. Throughout the book, the most important material is indicated by a boldfaced comment: “Do This Before It’s Too Late.” References to additional resources go beyond the government and AARP to include the Genworth Cost of Care Study and the National End-of-Life Doula Alliance. Miller acknowledges the financial and emotional challenges of caregiving, including difficult conversation, escalating stress, and grief and mourning, always stressing honesty, empathy and compassion. “It can be rewarding but requires your time and sacrifice. Much of the sacrifice is financial and it will be important for you to take care of yourself emotionally and financially,” she cautions. Behind-the-scenes anecdotes of her experiences interspersed throughout the book provide helpful illustrations of the unpredictable roadblocks that can arise at any point in this journey. Although the guide is aimed at caregivers, the author’s relatable prose and sensible approach to this difficult subject will prove helpful to anyone who wants to put their affairs in order.

A well-written and necessary guide for anyone dealing with the issues of aging.