HEARTBREAK

A deep dive into the meaning of heartbreak.

At 50, Williams, a contributing editor at Outsideand science writer for other publications, found herself “completely, existentially freaked” by a divorce from the man she had been with since she was 18. She immediately sought to make sense of her pain by researching heartbreak, but she discovered scant research about “what happens on the other side” of falling in love. In this three-part book, Williams draws on personal experiences, readings, and interviews to piece together her shattered emotions and explain the “complex emotional trauma” behind romantic heartbreak. The early emotional fallout of her divorce contextualizes the observations she makes in the first section. As Williams awkwardly attempted to “regain my sexual confidence” and push the boundaries of her limited romantic experiences, she also explored studies on such topics as the relationship between love and heart health and the power of awe as a tool to help the newly single “see themselves as part of a larger, meaningful reality.” In the second section, the author probes the impact of heartbreak on the body. Unexpectedly diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, she found research that showed how the stress of heartbreak and the resulting loneliness can lead to physiological problems at the cellular level. Williams then put the idea that awe can heal into practice and went on nature getaways and canoeing and rafting trips in the Rocky Mountains to help her reboot her overtaxed nervous system and “jump-start the process of calming the fuck down.” In the third section, Williams records her late-stage healing experiments with psychedelic drugs as well as an eye-opening visit to the Museum of Broken Relationships in Zagreb, Croatia. Complex and thoughtfully researched, this book appealingly chronicles healing from emotional loss and offers fascinating scientific insights into the mechanics and impacts of romantic grief.

A provocative and rewarding reading experience.