THE SECRET LIVES OF WIVES

Marital mysteries revealed by women who hold the keys to wedded bliss.

After marriage, writes Krasnow (I Am My Mother’s Daughter: Making Peace with Mom—Before It’s Too Late, 2007, etc.), comes learning to live with your spouses’ myriad idiosyncrasies, and later on, figuring out how to love that bloated, wrinkled oaf camped out on your living-room couch. The author’s latest is an informative look into the lives of married women set alongside Krasnow’s scrutiny of her own marriage. She whips up a spirited, enlightening cocktail of comfort, support and grace, in which women from all walks of life describe their relationships with their spouses both before and after marriage. Krasnow investigates how women have been able to maintain their happiness and sanity within their family lives, particularly during times of hardship, loneliness, despair and self-discovery. But marriage isn’t always rosy, and its appeal can fluctuate—indeed, one of the book’s most engaging passages explores why the popularity of marriage has waned over the years. When discussing marriage through history, the author cites artist and poet Georgia O'Keeffe, a woman who loved her husband, the celebrated photographer Alfred Stieglitz, but who pinned much of her matrimonial success on the fact that she was able to separate the personal and professional aspects of her life. Finally, Krasnow urges readers to remember the importance of including romance in marriage, suggesting that each romantic memory builds years onto a successful marriage. Fulfilling and well-structured.