WHY DO FAMILIES CHANGE?

A simple Q-and-A introduction to a difficult topic.

The psychologist author starts by discussing relationships—animal and human, married and common-law—and the illustrator enhances the text with pictures of diverse couples from different cultures and sexual orientations. The questions in the illustrated text include: “What is separation?”; “What is divorce?”; “Is it ever the kid’s fault?”; What should I expect if my parents are separating or getting a divorce?”; and “What can I do to feel better?” The digital illustrations show a range of situations and emotions, but some may soft-pedal individual kids’ experiences. In demonstrating that both parents remain supportive, for instance, pictures depict two Asian parents side by side cheering a young baseball player on. This may well not happen in real life. On the last page, the author presents a few more-complex issues, including questions about custody, parents’ getting back together, and blended families. While the whole book is meant to facilitate discussion between children and adults, these last few questions and answers, while still directed at child readers, may provide more information to adults. The answers throughout the book are realistic and appropriate. This could provide comfort to children going through serious periods in their young lives, but only if they are reinforced by thoughtful parents and other loving adults.

A useful resource for a common issue.