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HELPING THE FEARFUL CHILD

A PARENTS' GUIDE TO EVERYDAY AND PROBLEM ANXIETIES

Behavior-therapy techniques that parents can apply to help their children overcome everyday, yet often debilitating, anxieties—with a thorough discussion of normal worries so parents can decide when to use them. Few of the ideas advanced by Dr. Kellerman, a pediatric psychologist at L.A. Children's Hospital, are complicated in themselves, but nearly all require parents to change their own behaviors, often a difficult undertaking. Throughout, moreover, the assumption is that fears are learned and can be unlearned, and that the child must be helped to control his or her own behavior; Freudian apprehensions of symptom substitution are dismissed with "if a child is afraid of dogs, he is afraid of dogs. Period." To help children learn to take control, techniques utilizing rewards, desensitization, and relaxation are described in some detail, with illustrative case histories. Five-year-old Brian, for example, had seen a "Dracula" movie at his grandmother's, and developed a Dracula phobia that made him nervous during the daytime and kept everyone awake at night. Dr. Kellerman's treatment: letting Brian regulate the TV ("Dracula isn't real. You can handle him"); encouraging him to draw pictures of Dracula and tear them up in anger ("He was given the explanation. . . that being mad got rid of feeling scared"); allowing him to sleep anywhere in the house except in his parent's bed—their stopgap remedy—and rewarding him with a nickel (his choice of reward, Kellerman stresses) for every "good night." Other chapters—on school avoidance, hospitalization, toilet problems, compulsive habits, a death in the family, and disaster—also provide specific examples and instructions. Parents are warned, however, that they must be comfortable with the techniques for change to occur; if they aren't, or if additional assistance is needed, the information on finding professional help will be useful. One approach, only—but effectively carried through.

Pub Date: Jan. 26, 1980

ISBN: 0446341541

Page Count: 284

Publisher: Norton

Review Posted Online: Sept. 26, 2011

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 1, 1980

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THINKING, FAST AND SLOW

Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our...

A psychologist and Nobel Prize winner summarizes and synthesizes the recent decades of research on intuition and systematic thinking.

The author of several scholarly texts, Kahneman (Emeritus Psychology and Public Affairs/Princeton Univ.) now offers general readers not just the findings of psychological research but also a better understanding of how research questions arise and how scholars systematically frame and answer them. He begins with the distinction between System 1 and System 2 mental operations, the former referring to quick, automatic thought, the latter to more effortful, overt thinking. We rely heavily, writes, on System 1, resorting to the higher-energy System 2 only when we need or want to. Kahneman continually refers to System 2 as “lazy”: We don’t want to think rigorously about something. The author then explores the nuances of our two-system minds, showing how they perform in various situations. Psychological experiments have repeatedly revealed that our intuitions are generally wrong, that our assessments are based on biases and that our System 1 hates doubt and despises ambiguity. Kahneman largely avoids jargon; when he does use some (“heuristics,” for example), he argues that such terms really ought to join our everyday vocabulary. He reviews many fundamental concepts in psychology and statistics (regression to the mean, the narrative fallacy, the optimistic bias), showing how they relate to his overall concerns about how we think and why we make the decisions that we do. Some of the later chapters (dealing with risk-taking and statistics and probabilities) are denser than others (some readers may resent such demands on System 2!), but the passages that deal with the economic and political implications of the research are gripping.

Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our minds.

Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011

ISBN: 978-0-374-27563-1

Page Count: 512

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

Review Posted Online: Sept. 3, 2011

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2011

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THE CULTURE MAP

BREAKING THROUGH THE INVISIBLE BOUNDARIES OF GLOBAL BUSINESS

These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.

A helpful guide to working effectively with people from other cultures.

“The sad truth is that the vast majority of managers who conduct business internationally have little understanding about how culture is impacting their work,” writes Meyer, a professor at INSEAD, an international business school. Yet they face a wider array of work styles than ever before in dealing with clients, suppliers and colleagues from around the world. When is it best to speak or stay quiet? What is the role of the leader in the room? When working with foreign business people, failing to take cultural differences into account can lead to frustration, misunderstanding or worse. Based on research and her experiences teaching cross-cultural behaviors to executive students, the author examines a handful of key areas. Among others, they include communicating (Anglo-Saxons are explicit; Asians communicate implicitly, requiring listeners to read between the lines), developing a sense of trust (Brazilians do it over long lunches), and decision-making (Germans rely on consensus, Americans on one decider). In each area, the author provides a “culture map scale” that positions behaviors in more than 20 countries along a continuum, allowing readers to anticipate the preferences of individuals from a particular country: Do they like direct or indirect negative feedback? Are they rigid or flexible regarding deadlines? Do they favor verbal or written commitments? And so on. Meyer discusses managers who have faced perplexing situations, such as knowledgeable team members who fail to speak up in meetings or Indians who offer a puzzling half-shake, half-nod of the head. Cultural differences—not personality quirks—are the motivating factors behind many behavioral styles. Depending on our cultures, we understand the world in a particular way, find certain arguments persuasive or lacking merit, and consider some ways of making decisions or measuring time natural and others quite strange.

These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.

Pub Date: May 27, 2014

ISBN: 978-1-61039-250-1

Page Count: 288

Publisher: PublicAffairs

Review Posted Online: April 15, 2014

Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 2014

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