HELLO STRANGER

A film and queer culture critic ponders intimate encounters.

Across 10 essays, Betancourt effectively examines the dynamic intercourse between strangers and the titillating potential that “transient intimacies” can harbor. The author celebrates the “winking knowingness” and the “lightning bolt moment of lucidity” exhibited during the act of flirtation and instant attraction and how first encounters across a crowded room elicit both an excited anticipation and an innate desire “to start a story that may have nothing but a beginning.” In queer culture, for example, Betancourt relates to the desirous, intoxicating “pull” of online cruising and sexting with strangers, while elaborating on his own marriage evaporating due to spirited infidelity. He draws inspiration from plenty of referential material, which collectively and creatively supports his theme. Films like Closer and Sex, Lies, and Videotape; literary works by John Rechy, Georg Simmel, Garth Greenwell, and Alan Hollinghurst; and varied articles, essays, and even Sondheim musicals all scrutinize and romanticize the allure and the taboo of the ubiquitous stranger encounter. Betancourt self-reflectively brings his life and experience as a “shameless flirt” into view as well, equating his time spent in bars and airport lounges with the allure of flirtations and the pulse-pounding spark of meeting someone new. As evidenced in his earlier book, The Male Gazed (2023), Betancourt is a fluid stylist, demonstrating his intelligence in investigating subject matter that most readers—queer or otherwise—can relate to. As a witty, intuitive observer of human behavior, he validates rather than demonizes the delicious recklessness of meeting strangers and the intimate thrill of the anonymous encounter and perceptively elaborates on the “possibilities such figures can inspire in us.”

A rewarding and insightful exploration of risk, desire, and anonymity.