A truly helpful treatise on seeing others as they are, and letting that be.
A sensible self-help guide that counsels giving other people leeway to do as they will while taking care of oneself.
It’s not indifference that drives Robbins to counsel letting go of things beyond one’s control, but instead acknowledgment that, as Buddhists say, “suffering comes from resisting reality.” The reality of the world is that everyone wants to rule it: We crave control, but that control is illusory, and people will for the most part do whatever they want. Let them, Robbins counsels in her frequently voiced mantra: “When you stop managing everyone else,” she holds, “you’ll realize you have a lot more power than you thought—you’ve just unknowingly been giving it away.” Neither is it indifference to stop caring what others think, Robbins suggests, but you can of course model such good behavior that you don’t deserve another’s negative opinion. Some of Robbins’ advice is easy enough to adopt, such as her inspired “5 Second Rule,” counting backward from 5 before launching into an activity that one might not want to do, like paying the bills. Other strategies require of readers the patience of a saint, as when, instead of raising a stink when a fellow airplane passenger refuses to cover his mouth as he coughs and wheezes, she covers her mouth and nose with a scarf and puts on headphones. “Problem solved,” she writes, adding that the corollary to Let them is Let me, as in Let me adjust my behavior to cover what I can actually control. Robbins tours through a host of situations, from breaking up with a bad friend to interrogating yourself about why you’re upset about something, with sometimes surprising answers that often boil down to simple solutions, such as “Stop choosing to chase people who clearly do not want to be with you.”
A truly helpful treatise on seeing others as they are, and letting that be.Pub Date: Dec. 24, 2024
ISBN: 9781401971366
Page Count: 336
Publisher: Hay House
Review Posted Online: Dec. 23, 2024
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 15, 2025
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.
A noted actor turns to verse: “Poems are a Saturday in the middle of the week.”
McConaughey, author of the gracefully written memoir Greenlights, has been writing poems since his teens, closing with one “written in an Australian bathtub” that reads just as a poem by an 18-year-old (Rimbaud excepted) should read: “Ignorant minds of the fortunate man / Blind of the fate shaping every land.” McConaughey is fearless in his commitment to the rhyme, no matter how slight the result (“Oops, took a quick peek at the sky before I got my glasses, / now I can’t see shit, sure hope this passes”). And, sad to say, the slight is what is most on display throughout, punctuated by some odd koanlike aperçus: “Eating all we can / at the all-we-can-eat buffet, / gives us a 3.8 education / and a 4.2 GPA.” “Never give up your right to do the next right thing. This is how we find our way home.” “Memory never forgets. Even though we do.” The prayer portion of the program is deeply felt, but it’s just as sentimental; only when he writes of life-changing events—a court appearance to file a restraining order against a stalker, his decision to quit smoking weed—do we catch a glimpse of the effortlessly fluent, effortlessly charming McConaughey as exemplified by the David Wooderson (“alright, alright, alright”) of Dazed and Confused. The rest is mostly a soufflé in verse. McConaughey’s heart is very clearly in the right place, but on the whole the book suggests an old saw: Don’t give up your day job.
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.Pub Date: Sept. 16, 2025
ISBN: 9781984862105
Page Count: 208
Publisher: Crown
Review Posted Online: Aug. 15, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2025
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SEEN & HEARD
SEEN & HEARD
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our...
A psychologist and Nobel Prize winner summarizes and synthesizes the recent decades of research on intuition and systematic thinking.
The author of several scholarly texts, Kahneman (Emeritus Psychology and Public Affairs/Princeton Univ.) now offers general readers not just the findings of psychological research but also a better understanding of how research questions arise and how scholars systematically frame and answer them. He begins with the distinction between System 1 and System 2 mental operations, the former referring to quick, automatic thought, the latter to more effortful, overt thinking. We rely heavily, writes, on System 1, resorting to the higher-energy System 2 only when we need or want to. Kahneman continually refers to System 2 as “lazy”: We don’t want to think rigorously about something. The author then explores the nuances of our two-system minds, showing how they perform in various situations. Psychological experiments have repeatedly revealed that our intuitions are generally wrong, that our assessments are based on biases and that our System 1 hates doubt and despises ambiguity. Kahneman largely avoids jargon; when he does use some (“heuristics,” for example), he argues that such terms really ought to join our everyday vocabulary. He reviews many fundamental concepts in psychology and statistics (regression to the mean, the narrative fallacy, the optimistic bias), showing how they relate to his overall concerns about how we think and why we make the decisions that we do. Some of the later chapters (dealing with risk-taking and statistics and probabilities) are denser than others (some readers may resent such demands on System 2!), but the passages that deal with the economic and political implications of the research are gripping.
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our minds.Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011
ISBN: 978-0-374-27563-1
Page Count: 512
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: Sept. 3, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2011
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