THE NEW ONE

Self-deprecating reflections on the peaks and valleys of modern fatherhood.

Comedian Birbiglia and his wife, Stein, parlay their individual creative talents into a funny and wise memoir on parenting. Fusing good humor and raw honesty with selections from Stein’s evocative poetry, Birbiglia narrates his journey into parenting using material previously adapted for the Broadway stage. From the outset, the author admits to having “a low tolerance for children because I’ve lost a lot of great friends to kids.” He was up front about that fact since he and wife Stein got married in 2008, but when she casually mentioned that having children would “be different” for them, Birbiglia knew he was in store for some major changes. Though he outlines seven reasons for his reluctance about becoming a father—e.g., overpopulation, cancer history, a lack of great people in the world (“The men we used to think were great were priests, politicians, and gymnastics doctors. It hasn’t ended well for great”)—Birbiglia eventually warmed to the idea. The couple birthed their daughter, Oona, despite the author’s varicocele condition, demanding touring schedules, and Stein’s brutally difficult pregnancy. The author ably narrates these hurdles with the serious concern of a devoted husband and the comic timing of a seasoned entertainer. Throughout the book, Stein seamlessly interweaves her artistic verses, tempering all the facetiousness beautifully. Never clinical or overly extreme, Birbiglia’s lighthearted, refreshingly droll approach to starting a family will appeal most to readers who can identify with both his reluctance to couple up and his acceptance and embracement of parenting. There are also shared moments of introspection and maturity, not to mention useful wisdom. As Oona moved into toddlerhood, Birbiglia began to accept himself as the “decent dad” he never thought he could become.

Hilarious, relatable, cringeworthy, and effortlessly entertaining, particularly for new parents or those in contemplation.