A charming, compassionate guide to rethinking how one navigates and perceives the world.
Garlinger’s self-help book offers new approaches to recovering from trauma.
There are innumerable ways to experience, absorb, and retain trauma, but there are far fewer to heal from its effects. In this book, the author, a former professor and attorney-turned-spiritual healer, asserts that framing spiritual work as a journey impedes true progress—and that, in fact, people’s perception of time is severely flawed. He puts forth the notion that “you transcend your limits by accepting that you have limits. You grow by letting go of the idea that you need to grow. You arrive by letting go of the desire to arrive.” In nine chapters that broadly cover such topics as “Emotions,” “Identity,” and “Connection,” Garlinger skewers many tropes and tenets of spiritual practice and the self-help genre in general. He encourages readers to embrace and enjoy their bodies in a sexual context, noting that “spirituality and religion have a terrible track record when it comes to reproducing puritanical and misguided norms about sexuality.” He also uses analogies such as the unity of bee colonies and the unpredictability of cats to convey the value of communion and kindness. The nebulous language of enlightenment often seen in other self-help books is replaced here with ample movie and TV references (and even humor), but Garlinger’s tone is always sincere. He also hits more familiar notes in his discussions of examining and tempering the ego and rejecting the isolation of individuality. Garlinger frequently injects anecdotes from his own life as transitions from topic to topic; some don’t add much depth to his points, but others, such as an account of shopping at the Gap, effectively humanize him. The prose is crisp and sometimes disarmingly poignant; the chapters “Identity” and “Awareness” are standouts, with lines such as “Identity is simply the story that you, this divine consciousness, are writing in this very moment.…You are light taking countless forms.”
A charming, compassionate guide to rethinking how one navigates and perceives the world.Pub Date: Nov. 15, 2022
ISBN: 978-1-954744-81-3
Page Count: 244
Publisher: Red Elixir
Review Posted Online: Oct. 11, 2022
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
A sweet final word from an actor who leaves a legacy of compassion and kindness.
The late actor offers a gentle guide for living with more purpose, love, and joy.
Mixing poetry, prescriptive challenges, and elements of memoir, Heche (1969-2022) delivers a narrative that is more encouraging workbook than life story. The author wants to share what she has discovered over the course of a life filled with abuse, advocacy, and uncanny turning points. Her greatest discovery? Love. “Open yourself up to love and transform kindness from a feeling you extend to those around you to actions that you perform for them,” she writes. “Only by caring can we open ourselves up to the universe, and only by opening up to the universe can we fully experience all the wonders that it holds, the greatest of which is love.” Throughout the occasionally overwrought text, Heche is heavy on the concept of care. She wants us to experience joy as she does, and she provides a road map for how to get there. Instead of slinking away from Hollywood and the ridicule that she endured there, Heche found the good and hung on, with Alec Baldwin and Harrison Ford starring as particularly shining knights in her story. Some readers may dismiss this material as vapid Hollywood stuff, but Heche’s perspective is an empathetic blend of Buddhism (minimize suffering), dialectical behavioral therapy (tolerating distress), Christianity (do unto others), and pre-Socratic philosophy (sufficient reason). “You’re not out to change the whole world, but to increase the levels of love and kindness in the world, drop by drop,” she writes. “Over time, these actions wear away the coldness, hate, and indifference around us as surely as water slowly wearing away stone.” Readers grieving her loss will take solace knowing that she lived her love-filled life on her own terms. Heche’s business and podcast partner, Heather Duffy, writes the epilogue, closing the book on a life well lived.
A sweet final word from an actor who leaves a legacy of compassion and kindness.Pub Date: Jan. 24, 2023
ISBN: 9781627783316
Page Count: 176
Publisher: Viva Editions
Review Posted Online: Feb. 6, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2023
A very welcome instance of philosophy that can help readers live a good life.
A teacher and scholar of Buddhism offers a formally varied account of the available rewards of solitude.
“As Mother Ayahuasca takes me in her arms, I realize that last night I vomited up my attachment to Buddhism. In passing out, I died. In coming to, I was, so to speak, reborn. I no longer have to fight these battles, I repeat to myself. I am no longer a combatant in the dharma wars. It feels as if the course of my life has shifted onto another vector, like a train shunted off its familiar track onto a new trajectory.” Readers of Batchelor’s previous books (Secular Buddhism: Imagining the Dharma in an Uncertain World, 2017, etc.) will recognize in this passage the culmination of his decadeslong shift away from the religious commitments of Buddhism toward an ecumenical and homegrown philosophy of life. Writing in a variety of modes—memoir, history, collage, essay, biography, and meditation instruction—the author doesn’t argue for his approach to solitude as much as offer it for contemplation. Essentially, Batchelor implies that if you read what Buddha said here and what Montaigne said there, and if you consider something the author has noticed, and if you reflect on your own experience, you have the possibility to improve the quality of your life. For introspective readers, it’s easy to hear in this approach a direct response to Pascal’s claim that “all of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Batchelor wants to relieve us of this inability by offering his example of how to do just that. “Solitude is an art. Mental training is needed to refine and stabilize it,” he writes. “When you practice solitude, you dedicate yourself to the care of the soul.” Whatever a soul is, the author goes a long way toward soothing it.
A very welcome instance of philosophy that can help readers live a good life.Pub Date: Feb. 18, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-300-25093-0
Page Count: 200
Publisher: Yale Univ.
Review Posted Online: Nov. 24, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2019
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