F*CKBOYS ARE BORING

A guide to dating and relationships from a gay male perspective.

In his first book, Sheldon—motivational speaker, “brawny model,” and chair of the ambassador program for the National Eating Disorders Association—offers a dating guide and manual for self-esteem, written from the author’s perspective as a gay man all too aware of all that is wrong with the modern dating scene. As the book’s title indicates, Sheldon speaks of “fuckboys” (in their many varieties) as a destructive archetype in the world of dating, and his book teaches readers to watch out for them—and to avoid joining their ranks. He offers candid commentary on his own missteps in dating (including experiences with dating women prior to coming out as gay), his long-term body issues, and the unlikely path he found to a lasting relationship. Throughout the book, Sheldon offers life lessons and shares a “dating scale” to identify the qualities one should be looking for in a partner (using it led the author to his current long-term relationship): “Sure, I had a list of deal-breakers, but what about a list of the things I want, as well as what I don’t want? I decided to create a dating scale to measure my dates based on my values and not just if they had six-pack abs and a nice smile.” While Sheldon’s counsel is intended for all, the book will not be for everybody, and it is best approached with an open mind. In short, the text is definitely not G-rated. And although descriptions of the author’s sexual experiences are explicit, they always serve to illustrate a point. In all senses of the word, this is a book for mature readers, and one that is full of serious good advice for those navigating the modern dating minefield.

Engaging and full of sage wisdom that crosses lines of sexuality.