HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT YOU

Emmy attempts to find her missing older sister, Rose, by immersing herself in a series of complicated relationships that enigmatic Rose inhabited.

Emmy is a Black teen who had a tight bond with her sister even though, for the past 6 years following their parents’ divorce, they lived in different states: Emmy moved to San Francisco with her mother, while Rose stayed in Dayton with their father. Emmy is just beginning to question her family role of academically brilliant but socially stunted younger sibling when Rose goes missing. The search to figure out what happened helps Emmy gain a better perspective on their relationship. Alongside Emmy, readers witness Rose’s battle with depression as Emmy investigates the disappearance. The central characters experience stigma related to mental health but find different treatment modalities. Rose and Emily’s father’s social anxiety and mild case of agoraphobia begins to ease as he starts dating again. Their close childhood friend, Levi, manages his ADHD with cognitive behavioral therapy. Barriers to seeking treatment are evidenced in Rose’s journey. Through the characters’ varied experiences, readers acquire a mental health vocabulary that helps them engage more fully with the story. Ultimately, this thoughtful novel explores how two sisters’ identities were shaped by their foundational relationships. What emerges is a complex picture of mental illness and the stigma that can keep people silent.

A riveting, thought-provoking read that examines the effects of mental health on familial bonds.