FAMILY UNFRIENDLY

A parenting book that focuses on giving children room to grow, take some risks, and discover themselves.

The premise of this book is that many of the problems in U.S. society can be traced to a variety of parenting failures. Anxious, fearful parents are creating a generation of anxious, fearful children, according to American Enterprise Institute senior fellow Carney, author of Alienated America and father of six children. “Our kids, as of this writing, have forty first cousins,” he writes. “Our big family is tied up with our view on parenting culture.” The author laments the rise of helicopter parenting, where children are relentlessly monitored, shuttled from one class to another, and pushed too hard to succeed. Lower your expectations, Carney advises, and give them plenty of free time to play, explore, and socialize. He points to the value of community events where parents can volunteer and children can simply have fun. Another issue he discusses is the trend toward one-child families, which has led to a “baby bust.” Carney has little time for adults who are so frightened of the future that they do not want to have children at all. “Fear and sadness are the bread and butter of the Western media,” he notes. “In any corner of daily life, the press can find a reason for terror or despair….But the fear and sadness are not just about the climate or a pandemic. We have to come back to anthropology: we simply do not see people as good.” However, Carney is optimistic about the human capacity to solve problems. Raising children, he believes, is the most satisfying and important thing a person can experience. Some readers will disagree, but for aspiring parents, the author is an encouraging guide.

With practical views and advice, Carney offers a road map toward better parenting.